The 5 people you spend most time with

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My question is slightly off topic regarding relationships, but it does flow from it.  I am always disappointed by people in my life, whether it be friends, family or relationships.  It feels like I AM a friend and not…  I HAVE friends.  I keep on investing in relationships, but the return on investment leaves me broke and unhappy.  What can I do to change it?



Dear Miss Rent-a-Friend


I am so proud of you for submitting your question, because it means that you know your worth and that you need to regroup.

I can guarantee you that there are millions of people draining in the ‘Ungood’ people quicksand. 

First, let’s look at who to avoid:

  • Watch out for people who say bad things about others to you… Ya’know why??? Yup, they will say bad things to others about you too!!
  • Watch out for people who are negative
  • Watch out for people who are only TAKING and not GIVING
  • Watch out for people who are not supportive/interested in what makes you happy
  • Watch out for people who make you feel less than who you are!!
You are the average of the 5 people you spend most of your time with.  – Jim Rohn

This means that your emotional, physical, financial and intellectual abilities grow or shrink depending on who you spend most of your time with!  

And you will realize how people move out of your life, sometimes, with no formal reason. This means that you have outgrown the 5 people that you spent most time with and you are moving over to people who are more in line with who you are now.


Noticed how you started your own business and your ex-colleagues don’t contact you that much. Or when you gave your life to God and somehow the bad friends all disappeared. Or when you get married, your single friends hit the road.  That is the normal cycle of life.

You are constantly changing the 5 people you spend most time with as you grow in life. It is VERY important for you to keep on moving upwards and not let people drag you down into their whirlwind of a life.

I’ve been named a ‘Seasonal Friend’ and when they thought they were insulting me, I took it as a compliment 🙂 Yay!!    I encourage that.  Why should someone stagnate around people that are only taking from them and not supporting them.  So yes, Move up the ladder sista!!   If you feel that you have people in your life that don’t fit, don’t keep them close, because they are not there to see you grow!  Open the door…. and love them from a distance!


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Be You


YES!!!   The last one is important!! 

Allowing people to misuse and complain to you is actually a negative pattern of your own and you need to take responsibility for changing it!  Do not let someone more messed up than you, make you feel bad about yourself!

It is impossible to feel lonely, if you like the person you are alone with!  

Don’t try to fit in or be the cool one in the gang!!  Really, that cool groepie ding is so high school.  This is the big people world, put on those big girl panties and face the storm!

So, bless all those people out there, good and bad, and walk with dignity my friends!!


From the heart



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Date : 25 Dec 2014

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